I can totally relate to the kids in a family where Mom and Dad were both so very self centered. The Dad was only into how those kids made him look good. The way they dressed their children and lined them all up like they were trophies was so sad. I was not suprised at all when he walked out. What was shocking was that all these years later he accused them of not caring for him! He never changed from the selfish bastard that walked out on them when they were little. I think the mother was also very selfish but I blame the Dad there too. He did a lot of damage to the mom that he didn’t need to do. But then that was his way. July 20, 1978 was significant to me too. My father committed suicide on that day. That was independence day for me. It ended 13 years of horror and abuse while my mother stood by and did nothing. I understand the forgiving part but I also agree that never are any moments forgotten. It is incredible how much growth comes out of suffering and grief. Thank you for sharing your story.











